Is It Okay For Me To Date During my Divorce Proceedings?

By Leslie Fineberg on September 29, 2014

When it comes to dating while going through divorce proceedings, the divorce attorneys at Nottage and Ward, LLP in Chicago urge our clients to exercise caution and discretion. While it likely will make no difference from a legal standpoint whether or not you are dating during your divorce proceeding, you may want to take into account the practical problems this may be bring to the table during your case.

Going through a divorce can be one of the most stressful and emotional times of your life. Now, let’s consider how it looks to your spouse if you are openly dating before the proceedings are finalized.

Of course, the emotional component can be devastating for your spouse. You may feel you are moving on, or may not even care what your spouse thinks, but know that he or she may suspect that you had been involved in an adulterous relationship with this person before the divorce proceedings even began; regardless of whether that is true or not.

Or, he or she may simply be hurt and angry that you have taken such a short period of time to “get on” with your life when they are still trying to put the pieces of their own life back together.

Here’s the crux of the matter. A hurt and angry spouse is much more likely to want to dig in his or her heels when it comes to a divorce settlement. What could have been a straightforward and fairly uncomplicated divorce proceeding can easily turn into an ugly battle that goes to court and is decided by a judge.

To put it in practical terms, a protracted divorce proceeding is a more expensive divorce proceeding. So, you really have to ask yourself if you are willing to face the possible financial and emotional repercussions that dating while divorcing can bring.

While it is up to you to decide if you want to date during this time, be aware that you should consult with your attorney as to what the laws are in the state of Illinois and what ramifications your decision may have on your case.

If you have any questions concerning divorce in Chicago, speak to one of our experienced attorneys by calling (312) 332-2915 or contact us online to set up an appointment today.