Getting over a divorce is a long emotional process, whether it was a mutual decision or not. Every person has their own methods of coping with divorce, and no one way is the right way, but wallowing in depression should never be one of those methods. If you have recently been divorced and are trying to find a way to be happy with yourself and your life again, the Vendetta Technique, developed by celebrity weight-loss coach Valerie Orsoni, may be the way, according to Shape magazine. In this two-part blog series, we will be outlining the essential seven steps of this technique and how they can help you move on with your life in a healthy way.
The goal of the Vendetta Technique is to drive yourself to becoming a better and healthier person, not to actually hurt your ex, but to gain control of your life and your emotions. These are the first four of the technique’s seven steps:
- Step 1: Choose Your “Enemy” – Even if you don’t consider your ex-husband or ex-wife an “enemy,” this characterization can help you solidify your resolve and push you toward your goal(s).
- Step 2: Choose Your Vendetta – What is your goal? Looking better? Being healthier? Whatever your goal or goals, once you figure them out, write them down. Statistically, people who write down their goals are more likely to achieve them.
- Step 3: Cleanup – Remove any presence of your enemy from your life. Put away pictures and remove them from your phone, Facebook, Twitter, etc.
- Step 4: Create a Fanbase – Establish a support team of only close friends and family who know about your Vendetta. Watch empowering/inspirational movies, have fun, and just spend quality time with each other.
These four steps set up your goals and your support system and are the beginning steps of rebuilding your life. Check back next week for the last three steps!
