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In the first post of our “Trick or Treat?” blog series, Nottage and Ward LLP discussed the issues surrounding spending Halloween with your kids after divorce. We will continue that discussion in this blog, specifically providing some tips and potential solutions for how you and your family can have an enjoyable Halloween even if you didn’t previously come to an agreement in the terms of your child custody arrangement.
As an experienced divorce attorney in Chicago, Leslie Fineberg recognizes that there is no established set of rules that state how a child will react to or cope with the divorce of their parents. Of course, there are factors that can contribute to how a child handles divorce, including the way in which a child’s parents choose to tell them about it, but every child’s personality is different and therefore each will respond differently. There are some insights that can help adults and divorcing parents understand what children of divorce go through and how best to interact with them during divorce, however, and these insights come from children of divorce.
Breaking the news about your divorce to your kids can be very difficult. Should you be blunt and just tell them straight out? How much should you tell them? Will they understand what you’re saying? Should you sugar-coat it?
“Perhaps you two made lousy choices as to whom you decided to be the other parent. If so, that is your problem and your fault.” These may be harsh words to hear and a difficult concept to accept, but it is a truth that must be realized for divorcing parents to do right by their children. At least that is what Judge Michael Haas said in a letter/memorandum, written in 2001.
In our previous blog post, we presented a few holiday survival tips for divorcees that face spending the holidays alone; however, there are many divorced couples who have a child or children that they would like to spend the holidays with.
As experienced child custody attorneys in Illinois, we believe the goal of both parents should be what is in the best interests of their child or children when it comes to the holidays. The winter holidays are a very exciting time for children and any new tradition or arrangement should be made with that in mind. There are various ways in which a divorced couple may arrange spending the holidays with their children while still giving them the holiday excitement they look forward to all year. Here are a couple of suggestions on how to achieve happy holidays for your children and yourselves:
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Leslie has been the strongest representation I could ask for in a very complicated, emotional matter. She has continuously looked out for my best interest and the best interest of my son. She is always prompt in getting back to me and in keeping me well informed about my case.
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