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How Do You Tell Your Children Youre Getting Divorced?

By Nottage and Ward on September 13, 2012

Breaking the news about your divorce to your kids can be very difficult. Should you be blunt and just tell them straight out? How much should you tell them? Will they understand what you’re saying? Should you sugar-coat it?

These and many other questions can making telling your kids very overwhelming, but while there is no one way that is appropriate for every divorcing parent’s situation, the following are common mistakes that can make telling your kids about your divorce even worse:

1. Pressuring your children to make a choice between one parent or the other.
2. Being disrespectful of the other parent.
3. Assuming your kids know it is not their fault.
4. Fighting in front of your kids.
5. Confiding information too mature for your children.

Remember that your children are innocent victims in your divorce. They typically love both parents equally; therefore, putting them in any sort of position where they would have to choose between you, hear you say bad things about their other parent, or not be sure that they are not to blame can create burdens on your children that they don’t deserve.

At Nottage and Ward LLP, our dedicated child custody attorneys in Illinois can help you obtain a divorce settlement that is in the best interests of your children. To speak to one of our lawyers about your particular situation, call us today for a consultation at (312) 332-2915. You may also contact us through our website by filling out our consultation form.